Play pays: The rich benefits of tree-climbing, firefly-chasing, unstructured play (and why your kids need more of it this summer)

Why all of our well-meaning attempts to fill up our children’s summer with enriching activities may actually be harming them – and why we need to back off a little and let them just be kids.

by Madeline Levine

If you’re like many parents, your child’s summer may already be booked up with “enriching activities.” Maybe you’re shipping him off to a rigorous math or computer camp designed to give him an academic edge. Or perhaps she’ll be living at home but attending an educational day camp or an intensive sports camp. At the very least you’re using the break from school to double up on her (already daunting) schedule of gymnastics and dance classes, supplemented with an ambitious summer reading list.

Madeline Levine, PhD, has a question: When will your child have time to play? Just…play?

“It’s too bad the old-fashioned notion of summer as endless free time – to climb trees, chase fireflies, build a fort in the woods or maybe set up a lemonade stand – has fallen by the wayside,” said Levine, author of the new book Teach Your Children Well: Parenting for Authentic Success. “This is what kids need – they need it far more than they need a high-priced summer camp or some other program aimed at cramming a little bit more learning into their exhausted brains.”

Play is serious business, Levine insists. We tend to see it as wasted time, but it’s actually anything but. Play is the work of childhood. It’s a classroom in which children develop a whole set of skills that really matter in life. Indeed, research shows children who attend play-based preschools, as opposed to academic preschools, do significantly better in school down the line.

David Elkind, one of the country’s most knowledgeable (and beloved) experts on child development, says “play is essential to positive human development,” Levine points out. He recognizes there are different types of play: play that teaches children concepts and skills, play that initiates children into the world of peer relations and play that helps kids develop strategies for dealing with stress.

What these variations on play have in common is they are self-initiated and self-directed – the playing child is calling the shots.

“If a child goes into his room and strums on his guitar because he loves it, that’s play,” Levine explains. “When an instructor comes into the picture and starts ‘teaching guitar,’ the child may enjoy the experience but he’s no longer playing.”

She notes the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends children play outside as much as possible, for at least 60 minutes a day. Unfortunately, almost half of our children aren’t getting any time outside. Sending kids outside to play more often would not only go a long way toward combating our childhood obesity problem, it would simultaneously allow kids to enjoy more unstructured play. “Most experts agree kids should have twice as much unstructured free time as structured playtime,” Levine says. “Every child is different, but as Ken Ginsburg, MD, a leading expert on resilience, says, ‘What every child needs is free, unscheduled time to master his or her environment.’”

If you really want to up the ante, consider tomorrow’s adults may need the skills developed by play – innovation, collaboration, problem solving and so forth – more than any other generation before. The global economy demands this. This makes it even more ironic that time for free, unstructured, self-directed play is at an all-time low.

So what, exactly, is it that makes play so valuable? Levine offers the following insights:

It miniaturizes the world so kids can deal with it. Play primes children for learning. Toddlers, for instance, love to climb up and down stairs. This allows practice in reading visual cues – i.e., the height of each stair – that plain-old walking doesn’t provide. School-age children play games that have rules, which initiate them into the social institutions they’ll live and work in all their lives.

“Consider the complexities involved in a simple game of chase,” Levine says. “The running and turning and ducking under and climbing over obstacles develops motor skills, but that’s just the beginning. Kids have to agree on the game and cooperate with each other, which are social skills. They also have to determine who’s going to be the leader, who’s going to be the follower, and when it’s time to renegotiate the roles.

“This is just a small example but it shows why we should not be dismissive of play,” she notes. “Kids can learn more from a game of chase than from a week of leadership camp.”

It teaches them how to handle stress and conflict. Consider the spats, arguments and out-and-out fights kids get into when they’re playing with their friends. If they can’t resolve or at least smooth over their disagreements, then the game will grind to a halt – and that’s not good for anyone.

Solitary play, too, provides plenty of problem-solving practice. Watch a young girl playing with her dollhouse and talking to the dolls: If her “child” steals a cookie from the cookie jar she may try out different ways of handling the situation. Does she scold the child? Bash her over the head? Kick her out of the house?

“Business leaders say today’s young workers have a serious dearth of problem-solving skills,” Levine notes. “While it may seem counterintuitive, making more time for play may give your child a serious edge when she enters the business world.”

It’s a feast for the senses – and the senses are the vehicles for childhood learning. You can explain a concept to children all day and they won’t get it. You can show them in a classroom laboratory, and, sure, they may “get it” on some level. But when they discover it themselves – by doing, not by listening to someone talk – ah, that’s when the light bulb really comes on.

“You might tell a child, ‘Twelve ounces is 12 ounces no matter what kind of shape it takes,’” Levine explains. “But when he’s playing with a glass of water and pours it into a short, fat bowl, and then pours the same water into a tall, skinny glass, he sees what you mean. Kids do not have the capacity for abstract thinking. They learn by doing. And that’s what playing is all about: doing.”

It gives kids a sense of power in a world in which they are essentially powerless. This is why kids love pretend dragon-slaying so much: They are helpless in the face of real-world “dragons” like parents, teachers and other authority figures. Try to remember what it felt like to be small and powerless. Much of children’s fiction is on this theme (think Dorothy and her shaking clan before the hidden Wizard of Oz).

“In order to push out into the world, to take risks and to craft ethical positions, kids need to feel they have some impact on the environment,” Levine says. “This gets rehearsed in play, helping to get kids ready to stand up to the school bully or to resist peer pressure.”

It bridges the gap between imagination and creativity. All children are imaginative, Levine says. Anyone who has ever seen a little girl wearing a white bathrobe and a towel draped over her head pretending she’s getting married or a little boy using a stick he found in the yard to cast wizard spells at the family dog has seen imagination in action. Self-directed play cultivates that imagination into creativity.

And here’s the thing: The ability to innovate – to quickly connect dots that may not be readily apparent – is critical in a workplace where the pace is blistering and customers have limitless choices. As Levine notes in her book, “a major study conducted by IBM found the single most sought-after trait in CEOs is creativity.”

“If you want to develop that skill in your kids, let them play freely and often,” she notes. “Do not impose form and structure. Shun pre-packaged experiences and pre-packaged toys when you can.”

It teaches us about ourselves. Our sense of self must be shaped internally, not externally. We need to learn what we’re good at and not good at – what we like and don’t like – on our own rather than being told by parents, coaches and instructors. This is why it’s so important to let our kids try out lots of different activities (art, music, soccer, karate, gymnastics) rather than immersing them full-time in one or two you prefer. It’s also why they need plenty of time not devoted to any structured activity at all.

In every episode of unstructured, unguided play, a child learns more and more about him or herself, Levine notes. It’s this sense of self that provides a home base, a place to retreat to, throughout life.

“Self-directed play is better for kids because ultimately they will have to turn back on their own resources and their sense of self,” she adds. “If they don’t have that they will always be looking for external direction and validation. Business leaders are saying this constant looking outside for validation makes for workers who need too much time, resources and direction.”

Kids who have no down time and no time for unstructured play never get to know themselves. They know only who others tell them they are. Getting to know oneself takes time and emotional energy, and when all that is spent trying to get a leg up on an academic career, or become the best soccer player on the field, there’s no time left for the internal work of child development.

“Learning who you are takes place not in the act of doing but in the quiet spaces between things,” Levine says. “The more of these quiet spaces you can provide your kids, the better.”

Madeline Levine, Ph.D. is a psychologist, educator and co-founder of Challenge Success, a project birthed at Stanford’s School of Education. A New York Times bestselling author, she is a frequent keynote speaker for schools, parents and business leaders. Dr. Levine lives just outside of San Francisco with her husband and is the (extremely) proud mother of three sons.

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